On being boring
Graham’s being boring was aggressive – it was a way of controlling, and excluding, others; a way of being seen, but not seeing. It also served another purpose. Especially in the context of his psychoanalysis, it protected him from having to live in the present, from having to acknowledge what was happening in the room.
Stephen Grosz Financial Times magazine March 3 to 4 2012
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